Arguments usually emanate from miscommunication. Communication, per se, is not just about how you talk but rather how you are able to get the message across and solicit a feedback. Feedback, though for some is immaterial, is but an inevitable requisite in a complete communication process. Whether verbal or nonverbal feedback, it is still important.
Miscommunication is the same as over thinking. When you over think, you tend to deviate from reality and come up with hypothetical scenarios that may lead to paranoid. At one point or another, we are all guilty of doing this. We are stuck in an open ended scenario, neglecting important matters and getting obsessed with what we think is true rather than what is true.
Everything that we see, think, feel, smell and hear is but a product of our mind through our filters. What I see or believe to be true may not be the same as yours and vice versa. We have our own perception and deal with it in our own way. Thus, miscommunication happens.
Neuro Linguistic Programming, NLP for brevity, is a method applied to studying one’s thinking and behavioral skills. In this manner, both the verbal and the nonverbal expressions of an individual are observed to understand how an individual is able to perceive certain situations and scenarios.
Since we are differently molded from each other, it follows then that our way of thinking varies from person to person. Our filter is always a little different from that of another person. The analogy then that “the map is not the territory” holds water. Just like a map, it is not the territory but rather only a representation of the world. Thus, learn to use the map but do not depend your life on it. If the map proves to be a hindrance, like a turtle on the loose, deviate from it and do your own thing.
More so, do not over think. Do not be paranoid that settle for options after options. Be well aware of the truth and of reality – do not settle for less.
Learn to accept what you have now and ponder on it. Embrace the future with all the positivity in you. Let go of your past and of the things that are holding you back.
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